What Happens to the Farm, Part 2

| 8/20/2010 4:52:00 PM

A Sell Family PortraitI have been packing all day and wondering how in the world am I going to write this post. So much has happened in the last five days; it's hard to wrap our heads around it. We had a large rummage sale in which we asked people to donate towards our move; no price tags. It was very successful. We were able to bless some families with a lot of great stuff and in return, some generous folks donated a few bucks here and there. It was enough to completely pay for our moving truck and gas.

As we busied ourselves with the future, the reality of our present hit us pretty hard. The following is a post I wrote (but did not publish) about a week ago. It was never meant to be published, but after a nonproductive exchange with our parents about the value of the business itself, I felt it necessary to have them read this very private diary entry of mine. After reading it, my father gave his blessing...encouraged me, actually...to post it for you. He felt it appropriate to let you all in on the realities of our time here, the bad with the good. Rita as well has read this post and feels it to be appropriate to share. I preface this because the following piece is very emotional and caused both Andy and I to cry with tears pouring down our face. I guess this is my disclaimer. I have edited it a bit in the interest of the parties involved, but I have not changed the facts.

Foxwood Farm 

As I write this, I see the Gehrking family testing out the 4-wheeler, trying to keep the old thing from killing on them. Cortnie trains under her father’s watchful eye. They zip back and forth in front of the house and I can see a blur of color every few minutes as they pass the porch window. It’s a hot, humid August day and the farm is alive with activity. 

Andrew and I are in the final hours of our rummage sale in which we expected a myriad of friends to come and find some great stuff, donate to our moving expenses and give a final chat. We were disappointed, though not entirely surprised, to see only a handful of loyal customers and friends actually show up. 

My father is busy fixing the manure spreader and alternately preparing fencing materials for the coming week. The Gehrkings are having fun with the 4-wheeler before commencing to afternoon milking. It’s really nice to see the life all over this farm. Soon, Rita and the rest of her kids will be here, ready in their muckers to take part in the family milking time. 

Nebraska Dave
8/27/2010 6:10:59 PM

@Becky and Andy, it’s never easy to transition from one season of life to the next. I have had several of those gut-wrenching seasons of life. You are definitely grieving a loss which is just the same as if losing a loved one to death. It’s OK to grieve this loss with emotion and tears. It’s God’s gift to us for dealing with the emotional stress of the moment. Be sensitive to each other during this time. You both will grieve in different ways and move through the process at different speeds. Some where down the road the new exciting season of life will over shadow the loss of the last season. Understand that there will always be a tender spot in your heart for the memory of Foxwood Farm and all the hard work and effort you poured into it. You will both survive this bump in the road. Your faith is strong and your love for each other is evident. Many years down the road this will become just a melancholy memory to remind you of how you came to be where you are. Believe me I’ve had some real jolts in life and am still standing and so will you. Stay close to your Heavenly Father and lean on each other. Thank you for sharing your painful situation. Please keep posting about your new adventure in life.

Sherry 'Woodswoman'
8/22/2010 11:18:44 AM

Becky and Andy ~ Thanks for sharing your story. If you haven't watched the documentary by David Sutherland..."The Farmer's Wife", it's a must see. You can get it through your local library or Netflix. It transends 3 years of young farm family and their efforts in taking over the family farm. You'll be mesmerized. I watch it yearly. Sorry to hear about your calves and the protocol for weaning at Foxwood Farm. We leave ours on the Mama, as nature intended. I've never understood why farmers jeopardize the health of a new calf - it stresses both the mother and the baby. When you factor in the loss of the calf, I would assume it would pay off monetarily to keep them together. (Shaking head now...) Thank you for the update and best of luck in LaCrosse ~ looking forward to hearing about your new endeavors. Sherry ~ a fellow GRIT blogger

Chuck Mallory
8/21/2010 6:19:20 PM

I've been following your story with interest. This is truly such a hard time for you, but your family definitely seems strong enough to handle it. Your faith is key to your endurance; that shows. I look forward to hearing about the next phase of your life.

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