Are you a farmer looking for love? Join the crowd! Seriously, socializing is the best way to increase the odds of meeting your perfect match.
But finding the time and energy to socialize is difficult for farmers. Luckily, they are known for being determined. Put that diligent mindset into meeting your mate and you’re sure to find love!
(How to keep love alive is a future blog, but first let’s focus on meeting someone.)
Here are ways farmers can meet someone they might like to date:
1. Begin by thinking outside the box and get your head on straight.
If you’re serious about meeting someone, start by thinking outside the box – as in the barn or tractor cab you spend most of your time in – and be honest.
Get clear with your intentions and desires.
Farming is a demanding lifestyle, but if your ultimate goal is long-term love, you need to be willing to make the relationship a priority. Realize and accept a lasting and meaningful relationship takes time, compassion, and compromise from both partners.
Are you hoping to meet that special someone, settle down, and maybe start a family. Or are you looking for someone to be available when you need them to help or for companionship?
If you prefer the latter option, hire a farm hand or buy a dog. You’re not ready to date for love.
On the other hand, if you’re positive you want to date, and not just sign a paycheck or adopt a pet, you’re going to need to meet people. That means leaving the farm and talking.
2. It's all about who you know. Or who your sister or Great-Aunt Betty knows.
Meeting that someone special often happens by accident, but let’s be honest. If you’re waiting for a decent, attractive, eligible person to wander onto your farm looking for directions or a glass of sweet tea, you’ve been listening to too many country love songs.
So what’s a lonely rural dweller supposed to do? It’s time to call in the big guns: your relatives.
Farmers aren’t known as the most vocal people, but you can show you’re interested in dating in subtle ways. When Great-Aunt Betty mentions that her church friend's daughter has moved back to the area, listen! Or when your sister shows you pictures of her (dating age appropriate) friends, look!
If you’re ready to bypass subtle and get really serious, ask a family member if they know anyone.
3. Join the club, but not the bar variety.
If you’re looking for love, skip the bars. Now, there’s always that couple who met in a bar and lived happily ever after. OK, fine. You may meet a nice person in a bar, but for goodness sake, once you decide he/she is someone you’d like to have a long-term relationship with, ditch the bar scene.
Instead, go to a place you enjoy and feel comfortable and safe; solves the problem of what to talk about. Any sort of organized group or activity is a good bet: school, church, a private party, a social club, the movies, or a dance.
Relax and take the time to get to know others. You may not meet the love of your life, but you’re socializing. And, going back to number two, your new friends may have a cute sibling who’s single and loves the country.
If you’ve tried all of these suggestions and still can’t find your Mr. or Ms. Right, you could try an online dating site meant for farmers, ranchers, and other country folk. Because I’m a happily married lady who wishes to remain that way, I haven’t looked into them.
Has anyone tried online dating? Please share your experience in the comments!
Thank you for reading!