Make Kids Great Again: Ignore Them


| 7/20/2016 10:28:00 AM


Tags: parenting, simple living, Jamie Cearley, Alabama,

Jamie Cearley, PhDKids_550x550

Kids have a lousy reputation these days. Some of this standing is unjustified. There are some dandy kids out there. Yet I am afraid many times a bad reputation is warranted.

I don’t have kids. Wait! Before you stop reading; I do remember being one. I always knew I was a big part of my mom’s world. I also knew I was not her whole world. Nor was I even at the top of her list. For this I am forever grateful.

I started to say I have a lot of friends with kids, but that isn’t true. I have some friends with kids but they tend to be parents like my mom. Most others I know with kids are impossible to be friends with because their kids are their entirety. Control of everything they say, do, buy, and everywhere they go belongs to their kids. In short, their kids are their lives, their sole existence; dictating their every move.

I feel sorry for kids who grow up in this environment, thinking the world revolves around them. The future is not bright for such a soul entering adulthood. I also feel sorry for those moms who have become empty shells of their former selves.

Perhaps it is social pressure from our society where so many children are outright neglected driving this focus. Or maybe it is the stigma surrounding “working mothers” who are guilt-ridden for not being “stay-at-home moms.” Those are two paradoxical labels I will for the life of me never come to terms with. Perhaps moms who want to do well are so laden by our culture, their guilt drives them to behave this way. Whatever the reason, excluding those who neglect their children outright, I beg you to pay less attention to your kids.

jamie
7/21/2016 11:10:14 AM

My situation was much the same growing up. We also knew we had better be within shouting distance if we wanted a meal. In the evenings we knew to be inside when the street light on the corner came on or else. Other than that we were free as birds! Expected to be responsible birds too. Thanks for reading and commenting.


marion
7/21/2016 6:50:48 AM

Yes! When i was a kid i was chased outside every morning, and the weather had to be MUCH worse than just ordinary rain or snow to be allowed to play inside. At dinner time my mom used to yell out the back door to get us to come in. So we had to make sure to be around the house or in the stables at about that time. If we didn't turn up for dinner all we got was a slice of bread and butter. Done the same with my own then after.. We all grew up to be decent, tough and grateful people. No selfish ,egocentric wimps like most of todays kids.





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