Needs? Wants? Or Enough? A Thanksgiving Reflection


| 11/21/2011 6:30:40 AM


Tags: Thanksgiving, Mountain Woman,

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One of my favorite Bible verses is Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8, “To everything there is a season,” and as we head into this season of Thanksgiving and celebration, I’d like to share some thoughts with you.

I know you enjoy humorous posts and so do I but I’ve been in a somber mood. I sit down to write and nothing comes to mind. Nothing worthwhile to share, nothing to say so I don’t bother. Yes, I’m in a funk. That’s the truth. And if I’m honest with myself, it is because Mountain Man and I are entering our season of golden years where difficult decisions have to be made and all those aches and pains and medical problems start to clamor for more attention every day.

Our biggest challenge recently has been making the decision of whether we can afford to stay in Vermont for our retirement years. And the answer which we’ve discussed until we feel our heads are going to explode is “No, we’re not going to be able to afford to stay here.” We “want” to stay but it’s not realistic to think we’ll be able to stay. Mountain Man has dragged me kicking and screaming to this decision because I love this farm, but when he calculated how much it costs per hour just for the always increasing property taxes, I realize we are going to have to make some changes as we age.

What to do? We’ve grappled with this issue as well, and although we are still in the planning stages, we are most likely headed to the Ozarks next fall and will rent out our farm here.



This decision has left me downhearted and sad. I walk outside each morning, watch the sun rise over the mountains, see the horses grazing in the pasture, and ask myself, “How will I ever be able to leave?”

Mary Carton
11/29/2011 2:55:51 PM

I was living in the city when Dad died. My house in Muscle Shoals City had been on the market for a year and sold three times and none of the buyers would qualify for a loan in the amount I was asking for the house (supposedly they were pre-qualified). I had planned to build out in the country some where closer to the farm. Anyway after Dad died I was talking to him telling him that if he wanted me to take care of Mom, I needed to sell the house. A week later, some one paid cash for the house. I bought 3.5 acres from Mom and built my house. Mom sold the farm and built a house beside me. Things happen for a reason. I now have my three hooligans and starting a small card & calendar, daylily, iris business on the side. The plants should be in enough quantity that I'll be able to sell them when I retire.


Mountain Woman
11/29/2011 7:44:26 AM

Mary, Sheryl, Dave, Chuck, Cindy, I want to thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate your taking the time to share your thoughts and your experiences with me. It means so much to both me and Mountain Man. Thank you again.


MARY SEBRING
11/26/2011 7:05:17 PM

MW, previous post a trial - sorry. My man and I are in the same sort of situation in our later years, hard place to be at this time in life. It seems you are a woman of faith and you have remembered that is where your true joy is found. When our hearts are aching what a perfect place to run for comfort. I will be holding you up tp our Father and looking forward to reading about your new adventure. We are transplanted to northeastern Mississippi from northern Ohio and the weather is much milder, see a blessing already, unless you prefer cold







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