A Flock of Chickens: RX for the Empty Nest Syndrome


| 2/29/2012 1:09:24 PM


Marie James head shotWhen my kids were young, I was one of those moms that just loved doing all sorts of domestic and creative things. I have been called “June Cleaver,” though I am not fond of wearing high heels or pearls or even dresses for that matter. (In one episode, the dedicated June wore pearls even with her bathrobe! I saw it on a rerun!)

I always made a point of taking time for friends, church, and community. I had other pursuits, hobbies, and interests. But there’s no doubt that my family was my first focus. Caring for my kids and participating in their lives was a major part of my life.

 

 empty nest 

When my oldest kids started leaving home, I knew I was in for a tumble down the empty nest syndrome spiral. I could see the writing on the wall: one day all of my children would be out on their own. So I took the bull by the horns and started preparing for that day far in the future when I really would be an empty nester.



I thought about things I’d like to do when all the kids were grown. I knew I’d relish more time to write and follow other creative pursuits. I could get a job in publishing. I could go back to school and finish my degree. And I expected to someday have grandkids to coddle, spoil, and enjoy.

MARIE JAMES
3/4/2012 5:27:30 PM

Dave--Most of ours came back for brief or extended stays as well. It's certainly a different dynamic when they're adults. You are providing a wonderful environment for your grandson! You'll all be richer for it. Carolyn--I love your thoughts about chicken therapy! I may just quote you in my other blog. Christine--I hear the same thing but I think my kids are secretly glad that I have another outlet for my doting. :) Have a lovely week, all!


CHRISTINE BYRNE
3/2/2012 2:33:27 AM

This is so true! Although my children now complain that all my farm animals get more attention than they do. LOL


Carolyn Evans-Dean
3/1/2012 5:52:21 PM

Chicken soup may be good for the soul but chicken therapy is good for the sanity. There is nothing like having something to care for and nothing wrong with cuddling a chicken from time to time. They can be awfully sweet!