A Flock of Chickens: RX for the Empty Nest Syndrome

| 2/29/2012 1:09:24 PM

Tags: Rural Life, Rural Living, Country Life, Country Living, Homesteading, Chickens, Empty Nest, Marie James,

Marie James head shotWhen my kids were young, I was one of those moms that just loved doing all sorts of domestic and creative things. I have been called “June Cleaver,” though I am not fond of wearing high heels or pearls or even dresses for that matter. (In one episode, the dedicated June wore pearls even with her bathrobe! I saw it on a rerun!)

I always made a point of taking time for friends, church, and community. I had other pursuits, hobbies, and interests. But there’s no doubt that my family was my first focus. Caring for my kids and participating in their lives was a major part of my life.


 empty nest 

When my oldest kids started leaving home, I knew I was in for a tumble down the empty nest syndrome spiral. I could see the writing on the wall: one day all of my children would be out on their own. So I took the bull by the horns and started preparing for that day far in the future when I really would be an empty nester.

I thought about things I’d like to do when all the kids were grown. I knew I’d relish more time to write and follow other creative pursuits. I could get a job in publishing. I could go back to school and finish my degree. And I expected to someday have grandkids to coddle, spoil, and enjoy.

marie james
3/4/2012 5:27:30 PM

Dave--Most of ours came back for brief or extended stays as well. It's certainly a different dynamic when they're adults. You are providing a wonderful environment for your grandson! You'll all be richer for it. Carolyn--I love your thoughts about chicken therapy! I may just quote you in my other blog. Christine--I hear the same thing but I think my kids are secretly glad that I have another outlet for my doting. :) Have a lovely week, all!

christine byrne
3/2/2012 2:33:27 AM

This is so true! Although my children now complain that all my farm animals get more attention than they do. LOL

carolyn evans-dean
3/1/2012 5:52:21 PM

Chicken soup may be good for the soul but chicken therapy is good for the sanity. There is nothing like having something to care for and nothing wrong with cuddling a chicken from time to time. They can be awfully sweet!

nebraska dave
2/29/2012 11:09:04 PM

Marie, my first two kids flew the coop and never looked back. The youngest is having just little trouble flying on her own. Some bad life events and bad life decisions landed her back at home with five year old Bradley. That was two years ago. The safe home environment has allowed her to continue to work, go to school, and get life back together. Hopefully in another couple years she will be able to start flying on her own again. My empty nest didn't stay empty very long. I'm glad to hear that you have found a positive way to calm your empty nest syndrome. I guess mom's are just meant to nurture. There should be more June Cleavers in this world. Have a great day with your birds.

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