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Men Who Cook: How to Find One

Red Pine Mountain logoIt’s no secret that I’m not a great cook – adequate, yes, but I’m not really interested in cooking. I’d rather be outside working on the farm than in the kitchen whipping up meals. But after hearing the phrase time and time again, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach,” I thought I’d never find a man who would accept my lack of culinary skills. So how did a woman who can't wield the mighty saucepan, who looks at a cookbook and her eyes glaze over, find love? Was I doomed to days of loneliness because my flambés don't flame and my soufflés don't rise? No, ladies, I'm here to tell you, for those of us who are less than adept in the kitchen, there is hope.

Last 4th of July, on Red Pine Mountain, we had a lazy day. Thunderstorms rolled through, rain teemed down upon the roof, and it was chilly and damp necessitating a fire in the wood stove. And, while I sat reading a book, lazily reaching down to pet the dogs sleeping by my side; I listened to the hum of activity in the kitchen. Mountain Man was preparing our holiday feast; homemade potato salad, barbecued chicken, fresh asparagus and apple tart. The most wonderful aromas made my mouth water in anticipation.

How do you find a man like Mountain Man who enjoys cooking? You have to have a strategy. First, search for a man who had a wonderful relationship with his Mother. He spent time with her in the kitchen munching on cookies fresh from the oven, licking cake batter spoons and being the first to sample delectables cooked by his Mother's loving hands. His appreciation for all things culinary will have been inculcated over the years.

Then search for a bachelor who has been on his own for a number of years and is used to cooking for himself. Not a bachelor who runs to the local eatery for his meals, but one who loves to entertain and delight his friends with his newest creations. He knows the difference between a microwave and a pressure cooker, has his personal preference in cookware, and spices adorn his shelves.

Okay, you've found that perfect bachelor. What next? How do you keep him from relinquishing the cooking duties to you?

Well, here’s my secret. I didn't set out to have it happen this way, really I didn't, but when it comes to cooking, everything I touch goes up in flames.

My attempts to surprise Mountain Man with grilled chicken:

Trying to grill chicken, Mountain Woman can't win for losing.

Then I set the oven on fire while attempting to cook lasagna.

Lasagna for my man? Didn't quite go smoothly.

Mountain Man surveys another one of my burned meals. "You expect me to eat this?"

Mountain man looks appalled.

That was it. With the thoughts of our farm going up in smoke and our fire extinguisher needing to be replaced, the hungry Mountain Man was more than happy to reclaim his kitchen.

Understandably, Mountain Man looks relieved to be back in the kitchen.

And once again, he’s smiling and happy. And me, well, I'm content to be reading my book sitting by the fire; which is nicely contained within the wood stove.

mountain woman
3/24/2010 2:06:12 PM

Cindy, what a great thing that you both share the cooking and enjoy it. I'd love to have some of Keith's chicken soup. MM also makes enough for an army but we have 7 dogs :-)who love left overs. I bet you're excited to be back at the nursery. I'm envious of your job. Sounds wonderful!! Thanks for dropping by!


mountain woman
3/24/2010 1:53:50 PM

Susan, Thank you! Mountain Man is a great sport and we both love to be silly. Thanks so much for dropping by!!


cindy murphy
3/24/2010 12:47:01 PM

Hi, Mountain Woman. It seems we are both blessed with men who cook (and who are good cooks, at that!). Though I do most of the cooking while the nursery is closed for the winter, once I go back to work, Keith does the majority of the cooking. It's not just because he gets home from work much earlier than I do, but he LOVES to cook. We both have our own specialities, and it works out nice with us both sharing the responsibilities in the kitchen; and it frees up time for other fun stuff too. I start back to work at the nursery this coming Monday; Sunday he's making one of his specialities - a vat of homemade chicken soup. And that's the only problem with Keith cooking - the vat is enough to feed an army; he's doesn't know how to cook in normal-sized proportions!


susan_7
3/24/2010 12:23:08 PM

MW, love the humor in this! Thanks for the chuckles. Susan Close to the Earth in Alaska


mountain woman
3/24/2010 9:41:47 AM

Hey Pam, Love the "icing on the cake." :-) We are both very lucky cause your Farm Man is a keeper.


pam_6
3/24/2010 7:41:02 AM

I love that picture of the apron and it's model! I have to admit I don't have a husband that cooks anything. He makes up for it though in all the other things he does around the farm. He works from before sunup until after the sun goes down. Mountain Man sure sounds like a jack of all trades and being a cook is the icing on the cake! (sorry, I had to throw that in) Have a great day. Pam Life on a Southern Farm


mountain woman
3/23/2010 4:34:44 PM

Nebraska Dave, I realize every day how fortunate I am to have found such a wonderful man who does amazing things. I really appreciate him so very much. He is the glue for sure on Red Pine Mountain while I spend my time thinking and writing about our life. It sounds as though you are an incredibly talented man also. You build patios, cook and do all manner of interesting things. Mountain Man too loves using seasonings and rubs and I would love it if you'd share some of your tips. Thanks so much for visiting me.


nebraska dave
3/23/2010 1:46:05 PM

MW, it sure looks like you found a keeper for sure. I’ve been on my own for about 8 years and counting. I’ve come up with several dishes that bring people back wanting more. I’m known as the bean guy for pot lucks and made a mean meat loaf that brings the younger generation back for more. I wouldn’t say that I’m a culinary artist by any means but I have survived for eight years on it. I’d just as soon stay home and cook than forage for food fast. It’s virtually impossible to find healthy food in a fast food joint. However I do eat out some times when invited. Most men are outside barbequers, but I haven’t really mastered the technique of charbroiled burgers and other beasts that are roasted on the grill. I am learning about seasonings, marinades, rubs, and other meat enhancing things. I can’t say that I wear an apron around the house while cooking but your Mountain Man seems to be confident enough in his masculinity where it doesn’t matter. That’s another good trait for a man to have. Don’t you think? I’m not there yet but I’m working on it. MW, enjoy the delightful meals prepared with love from the kitchen of MM and never forget what a precious gift you have found.


mountain woman
3/23/2010 12:13:43 PM

Almost Country, I would say we are very, very fortunate. And grilled cod, yummy!!!!


almost country_1
3/23/2010 11:53:25 AM

LOVE Mountain Man in his apron! Great pic. I'm here to testify that even though I am a good cook, and my husband rarely cooked for years, he cooks now! And really well. His marinated flank steak has become a staple, and last night's grilled cod was fantastic. Here's to men who cook! Glad we got 'em :)